I made a stupid mistake. On 21st july i was on holiday in tuekey. I ended up having a one nite stand with a waiter in my hotel who had persued me all holiday and wouldnt leave me alone.
It was protected sex n then the last 5 mins he took it off due to problems or something with it but being drunk n stupid didnt think. (Ive judged myself enough beleive me)
2 week after being home i went to family planning to be tested for more common stds n got my results 2 days later all clear.
4 weeks past the encounter i had a blood test done a day later it came back and was negative.
Im now at 41 days past encounter but still driving myself crazy everyday. My next text will be 20th october 90 days (3 months)
Im driving myself crazy. Ive just got bk together with my husband. Its took over my life n every little thing i have wrong with me is freaking me out.
Ive been to my doctors a few times n spoke 2 sexual health nurse n been told my chances are low but im just freaking out and can not settle.
I hate myself for this stupid stupid moment.
I have spoke 2 the 2 guy since n did approch the subject of sexual health over there. He said they do general health checks and sexual one n he quoted " dont worry i havent got anything"
My negative results n the condom are giving me a tiny bit of hope but i want my life back.
Any advice or anyone in a similar situation would be appriciated
I just read your post and had to comment. I had a horrible experience with a bartender in Turkey when I was under 18, so I can sympathise with the situation you are in. With what happened with me the bartender got me drunk in order for me to do sexual acts with him. I never had sex with him but I was young and meant to be holidaying with my mum (who I almost told)
Now my current partner thinks that whatever sexual problems he and I have always hark back to what happened in Turkey but unless you've been through it yourself, you wouldn't know how it makes you feel.
I can't imagine the stress you must be going through with your husband only just getting back with you and please don't hate yourself for what happened. It's good that you got back together with your husband, too. That's promising, and the fact that your tests are coming back negative is good news. I think what's causing you to stress, and quite rightly so, is the fear of the unknown. There is still a timeframe as you are still due another test and yes, anything can happen by then. If the sexual nurses both said the chances of anything happening is low then I would trust that information.
There are people anywhere in this world who would do what this person did. My own experience will back that up. How did you manage to contact him or did he contact you?
I googled healthcare in Turkey and it seems to depend on where he got tested in the first instance. If he lives in a rural area, this type of population is "poorly served by the health care system which is much more developed in the Western half of the country". If he lives in a more urban area he might be more fortunate. If he had told you what tests they ran on him it'd certainly give you more peace of mind as to be told by him that "don't worry, I haven't got anything." Well...that doesn't really tell you a lot.
Are you still able to contact him? If you are, ask him what specific tests were done. I don't really know what to suggest if he doesn't tell you what those tests were as that sort of information would be more helpful to not only you but also the family planning people when you go back to clinic.
Hope my answer helps and just to say I have had a similar experience with a member of hotel staff in exactly the same country. Hugs to you.
Hi Katie, no matter what anyone tells us about their status or history. The only way to know for sure is to be tested at the suggested times after contact. The HIV virus has been known to show after 30 days - but 90 days seems to be the most suggested time frame. 20 October is very close, so hang in there..
ask your GP if any follow up is neede after that, but you are most likely fine.
Hi matt. I went bk to clinic 2day as i couldnt stop panacing and was worrying about what test they did on my blood and was told it was a 4th generation test.
She said she would do another one for me if it would help me stop worryin but they couldnt get my veins.