Ich schäme mich oft für meine emotionale Achterbahnfahrt - zwischen Schuld, Wut und absoluter Einsamkeit, während ich meinen Partner im Kampf gegen Krebs beobachte. Die Chemotherapie scheint ihm seine Wahrnehmung genommen zu haben. Fühlt sich noch jemand so?
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I am the one the partnership who is ill at the moment. 4 years ago I got diagnosed with something super rare and had to have emergency brain surgery. My wonderful wife is in your position, of having to look after someone who is utterly dependant and not always great fun to be around.
You have absolutly nothing to feel ashamed about. None. Anything you are feeling is compleatly normal and to be expected. You have not been given a guidebook or lots advice on what to do in this (all too normal) situation. When I say normal, I just mean there are loads of other people going through the same things right now.
It is well worth joining a support group of other careers. I have found online works really well.
Also I hope you have a good therapist. You need help too. It won’t magically make everything great, but it allows you to get thing ‘out of you head.’
I am sure your partner would want you to get the care and support you need.
Good luck, and happy to chat off line if you like.
You are not the only one! You have nothing to be ashamed about. What you are dealing with is an impossible situation. Guilt, anger, and loneliness sound about right.
My husband battled colorectal cancer for 7 years before he got his wings. It was so hard! You have every right to have all of the feelings. There is no guidebook for how to deal with a partner battling cancer.
I will say that me taking care of myself was what made it possible for me to be there for him and take care of him. I couldn’t be supportive or take care of him if I was completely worn out and burned out. I found it important to take some time for myself, even if it was just 5 minutes. I would go outside and get fresh air. When I had more time, I had the luxury of the beach just a few miles away. I talked with a therapist who gave me tools to navigate the impossible situation I was in. It helped to have someone who didn’t know me, didn’t know him, didn’t know our families or friends. I could speak completely freely without fear of judgment. That was lifesaving for me.
Saying a prayer for you and your partner!