thinking I may be depressed but not sure.

I've been going thru mood changes,  crying for no reason and just don't care about life anymore. Haven't seen a doctor because I keep thinking it will pass or maybe it's just in my head. I have a hard time talking to others face to face especially if im not sure I'm depressed. I don't think I can explain myself clearly to my doctor on how I'm feeling. The past month has been hard for me because I'm irritable towards my family and I'm crying for no reason more often. I'm in my 40 ' s and I keep telling myself maybe it's menapause and I need to deal with it. Any help would be appreciated.

Hi Stacey, It could be the menopause, it could be depression, but I really suggest that you go see your doctor, as he/she could find out what is really wrong, as there are also other things it could be too and until you have a clear idea of what it is how do you know what to do to start to feel better?

A month can easily turn into 2 months, 3 months, a year and so on.  Better to deal with whatever it is while it is still fairly new and not well established.  You've explained yourself on here, so you CAN explain to your doctor.

Go girl, get it sorted and start to feel better.  It must also be worrying for your family so you also owe it to them, before they start feeling depressed too.

Good luck and I hope you can get a name for your problem, then at least you're part way there.  You can tell us how you get on and what the doctor says, if you like and that may help someone else who has a nameless dread.

Marie

Thank you for replying marieC....I've been awake all night trying to tell myself to call my doctor this norning....I hope that I can. I find it easy to talk about this on here because I'm not face to face with anyone. I have a great doctor I just feel embarrassed because I can't control the tears these days.  I have a wonderful life and no reason for me to feel the way I'm feeling so I guess I'm not quite sure if I can build the nerve up to call. Thanks for your advice and I will for sure put my results on here when I'm told what it is.

Hey, Stacey, don't worry if you cry in front of your doctor, if you do, at least he will know you are upset.  Just make sure you have tissues handy.  Doctors should be used to it.  If it helps, write down how you feel and hand that to your doctor.  I have hope for you as you say you have a great doctor, that is something going in your favour, if you read any other posts, that is quite a rare thing.

Go on Stacey, you can do this.

Hi Stacey, I'm with Marie on this. I think it will definitely help to talk to your doctor. I know from past experience that its a daunting thought to talk about your issues to someone else. I felt like so many thoughts were racing through my head that I couldnt make any sense out of them, let alone tell them to someone else! But when I finally spoke up it was a revelation. Its the first step in getting help.

You can do it smile

All the best, Amy

Follow Amy Lou's and Marie's advice.  I totally agree with them and couldn't have said it better myself.  Don't be afraid to speak with your doctor.   Depression and feelings of sadness are nothing to be ashamed of.  Please go to him/her soon.  You can be helped;  you deserve a calmer and happier life.

Plesae go and see your doctor, especially if you have a good relationship . Mine is very supportive and once said to me doctors suffer from depression too and many know what you are going through.

It may be the menopause , I hope it is because that goes away and even if it is you can get help with either counselling or a short course of antidepressants, don't suffer in silence.

Writing down how you feel can give you a prop to refer to when you go , but you will find he will ask all the right questions , real depression is not hard to diagnose. Just keep your options open on how you want it treated. read up and ask questions, its your body and you know it bettter than anyone else.

Hi stacey Your post is a carbon copy of me im 53 and have had the mirina coil for 9 years now so last year it started in november i started crying every day for four months.I was irratable and very low, I assumed that it was this sad condition that I go through with my depression I couldnt function and kept going hot and sweaty the papaltations were at its worse .I was frightened thinking it was a heart condition as i was also going dizzy and losing my balance the i broke down at work. when i went to the doctors yes they two were brilliant i had all the tests and told me it was anxiety and stress after about three weeks I asked for a blood test for the menapause they were reluctant as its hard to tell with the menapause because of your hormones and of course i had the mirina coil fitted so i havent had a period for years. I was fortunate my blood tests actually showed up the symptons so not only am i going through the anxiety i have the menapause so it sounds quite likely in your case my love/ im no doctor but i am going through the menapause hope this helps