Do you ever wonder sometimes how a human being can do something to another human being. I am talking about the decision to go ahead and do a TURP on another human being. Now I am being very sensible here and I am talking to the guys in their 50's and 60's who have had this done ( TURP ). I just wonder if you ever stopped to think if anything else could have been done. I was certainly given no other alternatives. I miss the ejaculation. It's gotten to the point that I don't even masturbate anymore because I don't have a mate at the moment, but I'm wondering if any of the other guys my age feel the same way. I wish that I had my old self back. I want to look ahead to the future, but a precious thing has been taken away from me. Iv'e found many new friends on this site and feel as if we are one family of men searching for answers to our concerns. BUT the urologists are different people. Toal lack of humanity and feelings of what happens to us when we become older men and don't know what is happening to us. They have training in this field and should bring some element of Humanity when dealing with their patients who have bph. I haven't found one that I would give you a nickel for. I had Prostatitis which my Urologist didn't even know what it was + the BPh, so I was scheduled for a turp. Bing, it happened before I knew what was even happening. There was no discussion, no decision making, just quickness. Since this time I have met many more of these SPECIALISTS. They are very cold, very unhuman, like a computer. We are human beings. We deserve to be treated with compassion as you would if you were in our position. Do we really make the decision to have these TURPs or is it the Doctors. As I said if the Dr. were in our shoes would he want that done to him. Only the good Lord can look down and make the decision on whether that physician took his oath of pledge to never to hurt !!! They are people, we are people, but we made the decision to seek them out for help. Not for them to take advantage of us. Maybe some day this will all make sense.
Steve
Steven,
I same as you needed to see urologist because of my problems. I was not forced to have TURP so TURP was my decision because I did research and I learned that TURP only will solve my problems and it will solve them for a long time. I trusted urologist and everything is good. I was not mislead into procedure and I knew about RE. To me was important that I can empty my bladder completely when needed and I was sure that won't affect my ability to have good erections necessary for penetration. Now, 4 months post op I can say TURP met all my expectations. I am not mad on my doctor or myself for proceeding with TURP.
I an now scheduled for radical prostatectomy and I hope for same good outcome that I had after TURP procedure with same urologist.
i do not know anyone who was forced for any surgical procedure and I spent all my life working in the hospitals or doing research for the hospitals.
this is from real patient not paid response.
MK.
Yes, but there are some people, Mike who were given no other alternatives. and that is a fact.
I'm glad things turned out good for you, but I think if you are a young man in his 50's or 60's, other alternatives should be laid out for you. You know that different opinions are expressed on here by many people. I have had many anwers from people who feel the same way as I do. No man should take a mans ablity to ejaculate away from him if he doesn't have to. I know you are happy with your procedure and I Pray that your radical ,prostatectomy will glid along alright. You have been through a lot, Mike. GOD be with you.
Steve
It seems I was really blessed I was scheduled for the turp in July 2015 but got a huge blister and infected leg night before surgery and I kept postponing it then in August 2016 my urologist said there is a new treatment called rezum I had it done extremely painful but procedure only takes nine minutes or so but probably should be done under sedation that painful to me but 25 days after I'm starting to improve a lot did have blood in my semen with my first time being intimate with my wife I hope it doesn't last much longer
I'm glad for you! There were no such procedures when the turp was done on me !!!
The first time for me either so I was truly blessed I had heard about these turp horror tales
MK Why are you having a radical prostatectomy. Do you have cancer. After a turp there is not much left of the prostate. I'm going to tell you a story about my friend He was 49 when his urologist did a 21 needle biopsy on him. 10 of the 21 came back with cancer cells. The doctor told him that his only option was a radical prostatectomy that was the only way to go. He did not want it because the fear of the side effect. His wife bugged him to do it. His doctor told him all would be ok and he would do a nerve sparing procedure on him and he should be fine. Well it still took him 2 weeks to say yes. Because he trusted his doctor. He had robotic surgery.He is now 50 and he wished he would have waited or look more into another option. The only way he can have sex is to give himself a shot in his penis and has for his orgasm. He told me that it takes him 1 1/2 hour to have one and he said it is not worth the time. Most of the time he just gives up. Now he told me that he does not know how long he can do it. He just wishes he was dead. A man should not live like that. These doctor do surgery to fix one problem and you end up with more problems. Sometime I think urologist forget they are men and what they taking away from other men. Please look into something else. I have been looking at information on HIFC which looks pretty good. Right now my prostate is fine and it's staying were it is but I will be prepared if anything comes up with me. No doctor is going to force me into anything I will not agree with. Take care Ken
I agree,
Same in the dental industry. Had a few in my lifetime that I trusted but mostly not.
Part of the problem is that many of us have been unable to keep those trusted doctors. Insurance plans change. Our careers require transfers to new locations, etc. Many doctors know to use us or loose us - especially us seniors. So far, my UR doesn't seem to be in a rush to perform surgery as long as meds are working.
Hi STEVEN, Thanks for that info. You are so right. I'm almost 87 years old,with urine rentention. Urologist did a cystoscope--then said i need Turp> I said i want to think about this. I have been on medicine 4 months,still have rentention. I'm hoping i can quailfy for Uro Lift.
I hope things get better for you.
Your lucky if you can get that, Frank. Wasn't around in my time. Steve
Try rezum if possible may be perfect for you just make sure the prostrate block is good or get a twilight sleep
Steven, Its on you to research what ever procedure you're having. I too was scheduked for TURP this past February. Work messed up the scheduleing so I postponed and after research decided against TURP. I've decided on HOLEP which gives similar results as TURP so I'm aware that RE will be a side effect. To me HOLEP offered the most bang for the buck Low chance of having surgery again, coupled with resonably fast recovery time.
I was in kidney failure,had no time to research this. In my area of the US, I had 2 URO's on our insurance. The "signature" surgery for an enlarged prostate was that one did GL turp, the other did button turp.My bladder had been distended so long, I'm on a Supra cath for a while. Friday, I went to have ny cath changed by the URO's nurse, the cath fail a hour later, had to go to the ER cause the URO closes at noon on Friday. Lesson one. while at the ER, I began to void naturally soI was discharged.
The point is the URO's, who are older, aren't inclined to learn new methods, they are simply to busy.
As far as office visits they want you in and out fast, not giving time for questions, or checking that procedures they religate to their staff are done correctly.
It sucks, but that's the way it is
You went for medical advice and he did his job. Would you sooner pee or ejaculate?
If you did not look for alternatives to TURP it is your fault. Google TURP and all would have been revealed.
Why do you need the radical prostatectomy ? And what alternatives do you have to it?
How long ago was that? TUMP was around ages ago and GL and other laser procedures since 2003.
I refused TURP in 1995 when told I needed it as a matter of some urgency. I researched and waited until GL PVP became available in the UK.
I have a median lobe so PAE and Urolift are out. I am 59 and my prostate is about 23. It is either Rezum or bipolar. But rezume is for prostate larger than 30. So how was your Rezum and where did you have it done
The sooner you ejaculate the better to rid yourself of the blood.