What's wrong with me please

Men's health
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Hello all,

I am having some troubles since a while and I don't know what's happening, I am a 35 year old male and these are the symptoms I got:

- Loss of sex drive/desire and erectile dysfunctioning(I tried some pills like Cialis or viagra, it does help but the sex drive is not there all the time)

- Pain in my left lower back when sitting which irradiates in the thigh, testicles and groin

- Kind of throbbing pain arround the coccyx (Prostate?)

- Last week and while defecating, I pushed a bit and I got a severe pain in my lower abdomen. I was sweating and felt very bad for about 10mn

- Numbness or slight loss of sensation in my hands and feet (More in the right side)

- Strange sensation in the rear of my neck or the low back of my skull

- Kind of lost interess in everything in life and I feel depressed and tired all the time also with a permanent slight headache.

I checked my PSA and got a cystoscopy 2 or three years ago but nothing was revealed. I also got a Varicocele embolization because we thought that was the reason of this uncomfort but it is even worst now

Please help, It is more that what a single person can support

Thank you very much

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oh i am sorry to hear that!! have you been to a doctor ??he can of course help you in this! and maybe, i am just supposing it, could it be due to the fact you got fake medicines? where did you buy Viagra or Cialis, from the net?

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Thanks chia, I really appreciated your emapthy!

Yes I bought it from the net but from a reliable and reknown seller so it could not be a fake medicines.

The problem I think is my low libido, even after several weeks without sex I don't really feel the need of having sex as I used to.

I think that all of that could be due to a low level of testosterone... When the early symptoms started some years ago, I checked my prostate and my testosterone level but nothing alarming found. At that time the doctors didn't take me seriously and were saying that it is only in my brain. My health and life are getting worse and worse, Since 3 months, I have a girl friend that I even don't want or can have decent sex with . I avoid seing her and every time I find an excuse for not having sex and I feel like I am making her suffer either because of my problems....

I am planing to see a doctor again and ask for some tests and I hope they would find something. As doctors are not ale to identify my problem I was hoping to have some ideas from here.

Thanks again

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Hi Kyle, While I cannot make comment about your other symptoms, I can give my experiences of your 'Sex' problem. I do not think it is anything to worry about. I too experienced the same thing at your age. Trouble was I was married.

I set out on a healthy regime. Watch my weight, ensure I had regular physical exercise. Remove all the bad eating foods. Eat all the recommended healthy foods. After about Two months I found my desires returned. Over the years I recognised the symptoms and return to a healthy regime. The tablets now available. I am

told, destroy a natural tenancy for the sex act in the long run. I am now 77 years old and I recognise the symptoms, but that's another story.

You really should discuss this with your girl friend, as I found encouragement from the wife helped

enormously, like for example a change her perfume was a spark in my life.

Brian

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Thanks Brian for your reply and for sharing your experience,

I completely see your point and totally agree with you however I already have a healthy diet, exercise regularely, I don't smoke and drink just occasionally. I even take some supplements like vitamins and minerals hoping that would help but nothing changed.

I totally agree, those pills are not the best solution but I got no other options left; unfortunately without those pills I don't think I would be able to have sex. the erection is weak or absent without the pills. and even with the pills it is not as it used to be. Just 5 years back with my ex girl friend I used to have strong erection just by kissing or hugging.

I will book a new apointment soon with a different doctor and would ask for a prostate exam and hormonal check as well. I don't know if there is something else that could cause all this ill-being, the problems is that general practitioners don't have a clue in those complex cases but I will try

Kyle

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Hi Kyle, I used to have major issues with my erection and have managed to come good. A couple of thoughts come to mind:

Firstly, it is totally normal for your libido to wane with respect to your long-term partner. I am sure you know that men are not wired to be monogamous from an evolutionary point of view. That explains why we love pornography, specifically because our brain loves to think we are procreating with lots of perfect women to create lots of perfect offspring. Happy Days :-)

If you masturbate to pornography too much, two things happen: you use up your sexual energy, which you could "channel into" your real-life partner.. and your she becomes progressively boring to you, because you are spoiling your brain with all these perfect women. The solution: masturbate as little as you can, ideally *not at all*!

Interestingly, the trouble is that men are thought to be wired to orgasm frequently, because the quality of our ejaculation-ready sperm deteriorates after about 3 days in our testies. Frequent orgasms (most often through masturbation) therefore keep the quality of our sperm high so we are more effective at procreation... but I digress.

Secondly, regular exercise is not enough. You need to do stuff to raise your testosterone. That means lifting weights (big 'compound' lifts – look up a site called stronglifts) or bodyweight exercises at home to grow your muscles (look up the armstrong pull-up program). This will kick off a virtuous cycle of better physique, more confidence, better performance in bed, more sexual appetite and so forth.

Thirdly, 'vitamins and minerals' also isn't specific enough. Take a look at supplements like arginmax, aminoexpert vigarin and amitamin m forte. These improve your circulation and treat Erectile Dysfunction in a natural way. I have tried them all and my overall experience was best with amitamin m forte. It's top quality from Germany and includes pine bark extract, zinc and lots of vitamin B. Since I started taking this 8 months ago I have not had a single issue erection problem. In fact, my girlfriend sometimes gets 'scared' ;-)

Fourthly, explore each others' fantasies to keep your sex life interesting: BDSM, toys, role-play... whatever. And communicate! My marriage broke down, because I did not speak to my wife frequently and openly enough.

You can do it Kyle. Start lifting those weights today and don't give up. You are not alone. Keep us posted!

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Hi Chris,

Sorry for the late reply, I didn't notice that there was a new reply on my topic.

Thanks a lot for your lovely feedback, that's very nice of you to share your experience giving comfort and encouragement.

I will try those suplements and exercise program and hopefully they can help.

I went to the doctor and did some blood test for hormones, Thyroids, Pituitary gland, semen culture and everything came back ok according to my doctor. He said  that he can't really think of what the problem could be but suggested that I continue seeing him but I think that generally doctors don't take this kind of problems too seriousely which really sad as that can destroy a man in a horrible way...

I understand when you say that the libido decreases after a while in monogamous relationship and watching too much porn can get a normal sex boring... In my case, I stopped watching porn sex years ago, and even after 2/3 weeks without sex, I don't feel the need for sex and don't get aroused by a sexy girl or even porn. The wet dreams are rare even if I am full of sperm, sometimes it just leaks after a bowel movement because of the stools press the prostate or the seminal vesicles.

Thanks again for your support

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Wow another 1 with these problems but the doctors just either don't give a **** or just don't understand it and they just dismiss it.

I know how you feel I suffer from the same problem as you in that low or no libido and ED, also interesting you mention slight numbness in hand and feet, I fuffer from them too especially under certain circumstances like sitting on toilet seat too long my whole leg just goes it never use to happen and also using a steering wheel with the palm of my right hand it'll just turn numb.

Also you mentioned your abdominal pain and discomfort, I suffer from it whilst heavy cardio excercise and it can be very bad.

Ok now to your tests what are your testosterone and other blood test levels, relying on the basic doctors is dangerous, also what other symptoms? any dry skin? low moods like depression or hair thinning?

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Hi ,

Thanks Equin0x for your reply and sharing your experience, that's comforting to not feel suffering alone somehow

Just curious:

How old are you?

Did you have any unprotected intercourse before the symptoms started?

In fact I had some unprotected sex years ago, I did some tests for STDs but again nothing.

For the test results, I didn' get the level numbers but I will ask my doctor for them next time. What kind of doctor should I see for this?

Yes, I agree doctors don't give a sh*** about those problems, maybe they think we are paranoid or it is not important. In my case, it is completly distroying my life, I feel very poor and down, depressed and my life is getting meaninless...I broke-up with my girl friend lately, no desire for sex and those pills (viagra, cialis) were giving me a horrible headache, even if I was able to achieve some good erections with them but I was like forcing myself to have sex, anyway it wasn't a love story. In addition to the depression I got very bad mood swings and I can no more control myself and everything can irritate me for nothing....

So beside the numbness in my hands and feet especially the right side, I got it now on the face as well and it is getting worse. I feel my head under pressure, I can sometimes feel and hear my heart beating inside my head, my breathing is weird like short, I can't practice sport as I used to, my joints are weak like if I walk long distance, run or whatever I got pain later in the ankles and knees. 

About the skin, about the time it all started I had psoriasis or similar skin disease and it was really bad! now and after tratment it is gone but I still have some dry area like behinde the ears.

I started geting some discomfort and strange sensations in the ears and jaw joints, I think that my wisdom teeth didn't come out,  could it be because of them?

No, I noticed nothing about my hair

Take care 

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Or could it be a neurological disorder?

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here here

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Yeah I'm 29 and 30 ext month, it all started when I turned 28 so its not a pure aged related issue. Your problem sounds similar to me and I also split from my girl because of the ED, good thing for you seems to be you respond better to viagra and similar meds better than me, it does work a bit for me but doesn't seem as reliable for me as it does you, and yes the headache from them are not nice. How you feel mentally sounds similar to me, its hard to function normally day to day and the suffering is hard to explain to people. Its important to get the numbers for your hormonal blood test and also the diebetes hlucose test, whats your blood pressure? The numbess sounds very concerning as neurological issues can be hard to treat and also bloodflow is important.

your GP is the key here to you getting the right diagnosis because most of them can't seem to see problems in blood test even though they're there, maybe change a GP then you can get the right referrals and treatment, most likely you need to see specialist androligist for ED and if its a pure hormonal issue a good endocrologist is essntial. hope you can get your test results and post it here.

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It could be. Diebetes can cause all sort of nerve damage so can other things.

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Hi,

Myself, it all started when I was in my first 30s, now and 5years later it is really worst so little advice don't ignore your problems and take them seriousely before it is too late. What kind of ED medicine did you try? Where did you buy them from? If you buy online make sure you buy form a serious website as you can have alot of sh#* online. What dosage did you have? In my case viagra was giving better results at 25mg but cialis wasn't that badneither, the problem is that I have a very low libido, the headache was horrible and I was feeling like not myself because of the side effects, I was like in trans or high in the bad way...

Yes I thought about the Diabete too, but from what I read online is that you get thirsty all the time which not my case but I will ask my GP next time. My blood pressure is a bit high generally around 13.5 but can go down to 12.0 or get higher than 14.0 but several doctors told me that I don't have to worry about it What about yours?.

I got a semen culture, digital rectal exam and my prostate seems to be ok however I am sure something is wrong there; when I pee I don't have the same stream I used to have and got strange sensations in that area.. and more after ejaculation. I have a urine test to do next time...

I think I will give a try to the amitamin m forte as suggested by chris and as I read in other forums  so better try it and see... I tried some natural stuff in the past that are supposed to increase testosterone but I got no positive reaction.

ll go to the doctor after my urine tests and ask him for all the results and hopefully he will accept to give them to me. I find this is a bit strange that you don't get a copy of your own tests....

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Erm Kyle I thought your last post was a bit strange there. Where did I say I didn't get my test results? And you were saying your BLOOD PRESSURE results were 13.5, 12 and 14.... they are not results for blood pressure for example my normal blood pressure is 110/69. Are you sure the results you gave are not blood glucose level? If they are then those number say diebetes, dry mouth is only 1 symptom of diebetes but there are many others.

so lets start again if you can get the doctors to print out your testosterone and other hormone results it will be helpful in dertermine the main cause of your ED.

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Sorry Equin0x, yes you are right it seems a bit strange read in that way I didn't mean you-you by saying you but I was talking in general. I read online that sometimes doctors doesn'twant to give you your results or make you pay for a copy. Anyway I will ask him and see next time.

The blood pressure numbers I gave are to multiply by ten, I thought there was a point in between , so mine are generally around 135/70 but can go a bit higher or lower depending on the time I measure it of course.

I will ask for the results and maybe I already got my Glucose checked but not sure. Did you check your horomones by a GP or androligist?