I'm 16 years old. I'm short (although I think I can still grow some inches), ugly, awkward,extremely shy and introvert, I moved to another city for over 1 year and I still have no friends, no girlfriend, I never had a girlfriend to be honest (just to see how useless I am) I have no fun in my life. I just pretend that I'm smart at school but I'm not, I'm just normal, thats because i don't have nothing else to do or no friends to talk to so I end up paying attencion to the class and end up getting good grades.
I'm moving to another country next year and I would like to start over, to be someone, someone that is not a s****y person. Can I change how I am? If so, how can I change how i am?
btw, English is not my native language, so sorry for any mistakes and if I did say something wrong tell me please.
Hi Viny so glad that you wrote in today. I have to disagree with you. You are not useless or worthless and by no means are you a loser. What you are is a 16 year old at one of the hardest ages that we all have to live through. I can give you one example and I have never met you. You say English is not your first language yet this email that you wrote us is flawless. Now I don't know your native language but I can tell you with certainty that I do not know one word of it. See what I mean?
I am older now but I remember well being 16. I was shy and skinny and everything had to be perfect on me my hair clothes because my self esteem was low. Viny I out grew all that. I became very confident and outgoing over the years. I love people and love helping them. Don't give up before the miracle happens. Ok? Give yourself some time. I know you're in a lot of pain but their are doctors and antidepressants and they worked for my depression and they can work for you. Will you consider some of what we are saying and write us back. Please. We care. Diane
Hi VinyZlks. Trust me - all those things you think about yourself aren't real. It's all just thoughts. Sure, they're hard to deal with and make life very uncomfortable, they can effect the choices we as people can make, you're not alone, but try to find ways to see yourself in better way, a more positive way and believe me, your life will slowly but surely change for the better. And you'll feel happier. Self esteem and self worth - look into them. You've got a good head on your shoulders. You'll have a good future.
Hi Viny - your English is perfect. Meanwhile, as has been said, you are at a difficult stage of life. All those hormones and changes happening physically and mentally. What is it you love to do? Any talent that yearns to express itself? If you can find something like that and focus on it, develop it and hone it, be the best you can at it, that will help your self esteem. Meanwhile, keep getting good grades. Education can seem like a bore because we have to do it - but it is the base on which we build our future. Decide what you want to do and channel the efforts into that. When you move next year, you will be starting over. It's a great time to re-invent yourself. If you are feeling overwhelmed and depressed, make an appointment with the doctor to discuss how you feel. Remember you are not alone. It's not unusual that that one who appears to "miss out" in youth grows to be the one who has it all in adulthood.