I have been diagnosed with hsv 2 last week, my partner tested negative. I dont understand that how is it possible that i only have it? we had unprotected sex for a month. We are both depressed. I feel disgusted with myself for having this. We care about eachother alot but i do not want to give him this nasty disease. Were both saddened by not being able to be with eachother. How do people continue to have a sex life if u can always transmit the disease? ?
I totally agree and feel your anguish. Do you have any signs or symptoms? Why did you get tested in the first place? What kind of test was done on you? I don't want to have sex with someone in fear of transmitting too. From what I've read wearing a condom reduces transmission by 50% , also taking antiviral meds a few days prior to having sex or not having sex during an outbreaks.
Your sex partner should be tested again in 3-6 months to see if he has any antibodies against herpes. I was tested recently and told by my doctor positive for herpes 1&2 from past exposure and negative for resent, yet my first outbreak was 3 1/2 weeks ago with one sore on shaft of penis two days after a blow job. I'm still in the process of trying to figure this all out, but in the mean time don't plan on having sex. It's the price imhave to pay for not being careful
Hi Eugene no i do not have any symptoms. I ended a 4yr relationship earlier this year. The last time i had gotten tested was last yr in nov and everything came out negative . when i started dating my new partner i thought i was clean cuz i had only been with my ex bf for the last 4yrs. Well now that i am dating a new guy my ex bf decided to tell me he was not faithful when we were together. So right away i went to get tested again and sure enough i tested positive for herpes 2. (I had blood and urine tests taken). My new partner was sure he had it since we had been having unprotected sex for a month straight, but all his tests came out negative. Wich is bitter sweet cuz if we had it together atleast we would deal with it together. Although i am happy that he does not have it. But now we care about eachother alot and dont know what to do, he does not want me out of his life and i do not want him out of mine. But i just feel so gross and ashamed and im scared to give him anything as i read u can still transmit it to someone even if u use a condom and take the meds.
You must of tested positive from past exposure, which means your ex could of given it to you and it takes 3 to 6 months to test positive. If you are viral shedding and have skin to skin contact or sex then your new partner can contract herpes. Most people are unaware have herpes and that's why so prevalent. Some people act like its nothing, but I don't agree.
What is viral shedding?
The virus is underneath skin like when having a outbreak and surfaces when where is can be transmitted or contracted. I just came out of doctor office and said I could transmit it anytime to someone.
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Unfortunately it is likely your partner has it. Many, if not most, people test negative in blood and urine tests as they are really weak tests. Most people do not know they have it until they have an outbreak, as swabbing the sores is the only accurate way to diagnose. I must have gotten herpes from my boyfriend, but he is yet to have an outbreak, but we both know he must have it. He's just lucky I guess! To be honest it is best to be with each other because you both have it, and it saves the awkward conversation with someone else. With each other you can try to carry on as normal, although avoid any kind of sex when you have an active outbreak
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As I read all these letters and consider my own situation which I think is that I have herpes 2 but it's hard to be 100per cent sure until you get the positive symptoms, I am thinking why do we all feel so much shame for something we didn't ask for okay maybe some us could have taken more precautions but even so nobody wants it or deserves it we all just after love and intimacy and then along comes stds and all the s**t that comes with it. I really do believe I am a good person who shouldn't gave to feel ashamed about a virus
Thats the thing i didn't have any symptoms but i tested positive for genital herpes 2, and ya i agree we shouldn't feel ashamed because its not like we wanted to get it, but cmon the name itself sounda nasty, then the fact that u get sores is gross but it does help a lil too see that i am not alone and can talk to u guys on here.
Ya we decided to stay together, Actually it kinda brought us closer, i still feel embarrassed tho i dont want to give it to him. What precautions do u and ur bf use so he doesn't get an outbreak? And does this mean i can never get oral sex preformed on me?
I just found out two weeks ago I tested possitive for herpes. I went in because I thought a shaving nick became infected and the Dr. told me it wasn't an infected wound it was a herpes sore (the cut next to it probably didn't help). I have no idea when I started having outbreaks because I get a lot of rashes, in grown hairs, and shaving nicks (or at least I thought they were all rashes and in grown hairs). I've only had three sex partners total and I've been in a commited relationship for almost 5 years. The Dr. says I most likely got it from one of my past partners. The guy I'm with now has not had sex with anyone other than me so I know I did not get it from him. The Dr. said its possible to have herpes but not have any symptoms because the virus can lay dormant for years before showing signs.
Since I just found out I told my boyfriend and he got his blood tested. But his tests came back negative. It said he had been exposed to both strains of the virus but he still doesn't have it. Which is good but confusing, I thought since I've had it for a long time he would surely have it. But maybe its like what person SW12345 said "Many, if not most, people test negative in blood and urine tests as they are really weak tests. Most people do not know they have it until they have an outbreak..."
So it's possible for my boyfriend to have it but not have any symptoms. I know this is about to sound really sh*tty, but I do wish he had been confirmed positive for it so I wouldn't be going through this alone.
You can test without symptoms via the HSV-1/2 IgG antibody blood test, which is type-specific. Only lesion testing requires an outbreak/symptoms, obviously.
To those of you here with test-confirmed HSV-2, can I invite you to add to a thread I created?
Trying to find an easier way to identify/group fellow Type 2 folk, since we really have it quite differently to those with Type 1.
Also, trying to get a better idea of outbreak frequency and the impact of prior HSV-1 (hence my cold sore question). Thanks!
Thread link is:
https://patient.info/forums/discuss/hsv-2-only-who-else-and-how-often-do-you-have-outbreaks--485196
I've seen you talking on many posts and you seem to know what you are talking about FelisCatus. I just found out im positive a few days ago and ive been with the same guy for two years. Do you know if he gets blood tests ( as he has never had symptoms) will it show up or not? Ive read so many websites that contradicte each other i dont know what to believe.
Thank you! If he has carried HSV for around 3 months or longer, then the IgG type-specific antibody test will pick it up regardless of symptoms or not. Certainly for HSV-2 and probably for HSV-1, although the latter apparently misses some infections. A positive by IgG will not tell you the location of the infection without symptoms, however, but Type 2 is nearly always genital and Type 1 usually oral but could be genital. The IgM antibody test and PCR blood test (not swab) are useless for herpes, so are not recommended. Which type did you test positive for, and how?
How does he know if the infection is past or recent? Did your doctor explain that? because all I've been told is there's no way to know
Negative IgG + positive swab = new infection. Positive IgG + positive swab = "older" infection (over 2-3 months). Low index value that increases dramatically over a month or two = likely new infection. High index value that remains similar over a month or two = established infection. There is no test that can tell exactly, but there are ways to assess situations in some cases.
I feel my situation is really similar to yours. I started noticing itchy red bumps and thought that they were caused by shaving too. I went to see my OB/GYN today, and she said that they looked like herpes. She did a swap test and I'm still waiting for the test result.
I was diagnosed with genital warts caused by HPV more than two and half years ago. I believe that i got it from the guy who I dated for a very short amount of time. After that, I met my current boyfriend. I was really honest with him and told him what I have on our second date. He is really understanding and surpportive. We've been together for more than two and half years. The warts never came back after the initial "breakout". I thought I would never have it again. However, now I could possibily get genital herpes which are 150% worse than warts in my opinions. Me and my boyfriend are very honest and faithful to each other. He got STD test a year ago, and it was negative. But my doctor told me a regular STD test doesn't test for herpes, so most likely he will have it too. He's going to get it tested.
I'm feeling the same as you are. I would rather have him has it as well. I know it's a very selfish thought, but I don't know if I could keep dating him while knowing only myself carrying the virus and could pass it on him.
I'm feeling ashamed, guilty, frustrated...
I wish I could've taken a much better care of myself when everything is not too late...
I just found out I was positive for HSV 1 and HSV 2. I went to be tested for trich because my partner told me he had been unfaithful and contracted it. So I decided to get tested for everything. I had the IgG test done and of course I was positive. Well he goes to the doctor and they do a swab test of his mouth and he says he received a negative result. How is that possible when he's the only person I've been with for years. All my test were negative last year. My doctor is adamant that he should have had the same test as I did. But he's hell bound on him taking the right test and that I'm at fault.