Hi patricia,
It's a very valid question so no problem.
I knew people who were sober for 30+ years and relapsed so I don't take my long period of sobriety for granted. A couple of them were even counsellors. I've seen people who went back to drink because they were retired, financially secure with no responsibilities and nothing to concern them.
I am a member of A.A. but I have to say I'm not and never have been a bible basher (that comment is for people who think that's what A.A. is all about and I've already been the brunt of negative comments about that). I want to be able to be of help (12th stepping or not, call it what you like) and I believe in group therapy which helps me in forums like this one in partciular.
I've learned a lot since I joined - things and new strategies are available which I knew nothing of but that's not a machination of mine to go back to drinking. It's great that there has been much progress made.
I live in a developing country in Asia where the norm for most ex-pats is to spend most of their time in bars. Not all of them but I would say most - I live in a tourist resort so you can imagine what most of the tourists do; especially backpackers of all ages.
As far as I know, there is only one A.A. group in this country and it's 250 km away. I have a business so I cannot spare the time to travel there which would involve an overnight stay each time I went.
Booze is very cheap here, prescription drugs are avaiable over the counter; everything from diazepam to methadone and probably others besides. Any class drug is easily obtainable; hard drugs are unlawful but then there are powers that be who are involved in that scene. I can't say too much about that on line.
I work as hard as I can and hope to semi-retire in a few years as I've spent most of my life in the construction industry (still do) and now I find it tiring and more tiring the older I get. I suffer from wear and tear which, coupled with my age is frustrating knowing that I can't do the things I want and enjoy doing where construction is concerned.
I know that retirement can be a shock to the system for some and can lead to drinking out of boredom. Not so much of a problem for me as I'm a musician (always a passion) but have arthritis so maybe one day my fingers and my concentration will let me down. So that'll mean the piano and guitars will sit collecting dust.
Some may say I'm putting the cart before the horse; I know how cunning alcohol can be so I'm not preparing myself for a future assault on it again; my wish is to help others and to protect myself.
For me, the two have always gone hand in hand for a long time so it's important for me and much more profitable than watching t.v. (not that there's much to watch) It also provides me with social intercourse with people who speak the same language.
Colin.