I was beaten as a child throughout my childood from age 3 until leaving school at age 16. This was in South Africa, where I was born, although both parents were British. My mother was born in Wales and had 2 brothers and 2 sisters.I met one of her sisters who asserted “Dad never beat us”, but the filthy childbeating old thing that was my mother always asserted that he DID beat them. It was a compulsive liar.
My father had one brother and was frequently beaten at school and at home. he often whined about this to me but he was always ready to make me take my clothes off to be thrashed on my bare buttocks so I screamed and screamed for mercy. He never delivered more than 6 lashes with his belt,so compassionate of him. At school about half the so called teachers were English by birth and I would say they were avid to have little boys caned and later, at the high school when I was 16, I was sent to the headmaster for 2 strokes of the cane on my buttocks for not doing homework by a 19 year old female student teacher.Although men always carried out the beatings, it was usually women who demanded I must be beaten, or who gave me the handwritten note to take to the headmaster. I was physically assaulted by smacking or beating with a wooden ruler on the back of my knees and other places on my body by women teachers from the age of 7 up to about 10.A large number of these women practiced grotesque cruelties on little boys including on me, ranging from pulling and twisting ears which was very painful, to making flat fists with which they would simultaneously box both ears, leaving my head ringing.I remain with a strong inate distrust of women and many women appear hateful to me now, as an adult aged 75. I always assopciate pain, betrayal, embarrassment, humiliation and despair with females. The same applies to my relationships with men, of course, but I have no biological imperative to make any particular kind of relationship with men. I have found that all men I have spoken to about this issue of Corporal Punishment always become angry and begin to shout at me for raising the issue, maintaining they have forgiven their teachers/parents, it never did them any harm and there is something wrong with me because I should recognise they beat me to help me and I’ve taken it the wrong way etc, etc. Men are generally horrible emotional cowards who have split off their feelings from their conscious awareness because it hurts so much emotionally if they remember what happened in the past. The big dnager with REPRESSING corporal punishment issues is that the tremendous FURY and SHAME that is always held by all survivors of corporal punishment then become repressed and unconscious, but it continues to make the sufferer behave angrily and prone to commit acts of violence and sexual violence. You know, like WAYNE Couzens or IAN Huntley. Men struggling with corporal punishment issues are prone to alcohol and substance abuse. Check out the statistics for men addicted to alcohol and other substances who were beaten as children. I will leave this for the moment but look out for more posts.
Sorry to hear about your story Jack. You unfortunately were schooled by the “put fear into the child because fear equals obedience” school of thinking. This was especially bad if you were suffering this at home to. You literally had no escape. As you can testify to, this has a long term effect on how you feel about yourself and those who inflicted it on you. How have you tried to deal with it? What do you feel helps you the most?
Wait until you have read my most recent post before trying to explain anything to me. I can’t post it until they help me.
Hello @Jack_Rainbow,
We have responded to your email but unfortunately we are not planning on adding a tag specifically for corporal punishment at the moment.
If your post relates to the same topic, adding it to this thread would be appropriate.