I have done a ton of research (much of online contradicts itself, honestly so do doctors!) and have spoken with a few doctors. Apparently you can pass the virus (HSV1) from a cold sore to your genitals by touching the sore and then your vagina/penis.
make sure they so a swab!! if herpes is only new in your system there will be no point of a blood test!
herpes is not the end of the world. it takes some time to get used to mentally and physically but it shouldnt stop you from anything!
also you can still have children naturally. usally it is only bad if you contract herpes while pregnant! dont worry about that know though until you know for sure :) x
its herpes :(
so i visited the doctor and they did a swab and it is confirmed herpes :( i hope i can emotionally move on from this
I was at your stage 6months ago! its torture! but i promise it does get easier with time! feel free to message me :) x
when i got tested for hiv (which was negative btw ) they said since i havent had any symptoms since my last encounter (about 16 months ago) i should be fine. did they lie??
No they didn't. HIV testing is very advanced and you are conclusively negative. There is no need for further worry about any past exposure.
Nope, not accurate. Once you have an established infection in one location you cannot infect another area of your body.
Did they tell you what type, 1 or 2? You can absolutely move past this, it just takes some time due to the stupid stigma. You now have a virus that most of the world has in some form, no big deal. You can take suppression medication and use condoms, which provides an exceptional level of protection to your partners. While there's always a small risk, couples can go years (or forever) never passing it on. Read up on it, as the more educated you are, the better you'll be at answering potential partners questions. Remember, if you present something as no big deal, it will often be taken as it should be - minimal risk, but maybe not worth missing out on an awesome person for. If you present it like the end of the world, it'll be received as such. Lastly, remember that we get rejected for all sorts of reasons: too tall, too short, don't want kids, being a smoker, and a million other things! You may get rejected for this too, but rejection is just a part of life, and so nothing has really changed. I promise everything will work out in the end. I suggest checking out the herpes reddit page, as well as The Herpes Opportunity website. There is a ton of positivity, support, disclosure stories and advice, and most of all they remind you of how common this virus is, and that you're nowhere near alone. hugs
i meant for other stds that i have not been tested for
Agreed with first_77275.
I wouldn't stress out about it at all. It's just a sore, nothing more. It doesn't cause death. I've had cold sores(herpes) my entire life!
Just talk honestly with your partner and if they are understanding and know you are taking precautions to not pass it on to them, they will be accepting.
I see. No that isn't accurate then. Many STDs can be "silent" for years. Get a full panel, and be sure to tell them you want herpes testing included as well.