I have done something quite irresponsible last night. I was just rubbing my girlfriend down there, and my hands weren't probably completely clean (I haven't really done anything like this before). I was mainly stimulating the clitoris, at times using her wetness to lube her up. She didn't seem to mind and at that time, she wasn't in pain or anything, in fact according to her she was enjoying it. After going back home though, she felt that the area around her clit became really sore and that it hurts horribly while trying to pee. It also itched when soap touched the area while trying to take a shower. It feels uncomfortable in general, and aches when trying to move. Most importantly, she says she has discovered some sort of a 'hole' beside her clitoris, which does not look like a scar, but is red. This has freaked us out both, and although I haven't seen the condition myself, I can't describe it more precisely. She says it's like the type of 'fold' we get when we apply pressure on our skin with the nails, except that it's round, tiny and deeper. She is also having pain in her tummy (in fact this happens when she masturbates too much) which makes it all the more worse. She is really mad at me and I know I have done something careless (especially when it is the first time we have been doing something like this), and I probably don't even deserve to be her boyfriend, but I feel really guilty and I want to help her in every way possible but I don't really know what to do about it. She hasn't spoken to anyone about it yet although she is suffering and all I care about now is that this condition goes away as soon as possible. She is not ready to go the gynecologist because she is too ashamed to talk about it as she is from a conservative family. Please help me out in this distress, and recommend me what I should do at the moment to relieve her from the pain. She is 19 years old by the way.
It is very unusual for critotal pain to be serious. If your girlfriend uses a bland cream such as aloe vera I am sure it will sort itself out in a day or two. Ice cubes may also help.
Do you think this happened because of rubbing it too roughly? Then again, what could the 'hole' be that she is talking about? Thanks for your suggestion.
Moreover, how do I know that this is indeed something serious (like an infection) and requires immediate medical help?
As I said it is very unusual for something like that to be serious. If she is worried she can always visit a doctor.
Although it is not an infection a good place for advice would be an STD walk in clinic.