Today my closest friend sent me a text saying she feels like I use her as an emotional crutch.
She knows about my anxiety as she suffers too and I have spent a long time helping her and supporting her through it.
These past couple of weeks have been awful with my anxiety, it has been a rollercoaster and after reading that text I don't know who I am.
When I have my bad days I'm convinced that I'm not a good person. And I did have a habit of bottling things up and I'm trying not to and now I just want to curl up and not speak to anyone anymore.
Am I a bad person for wanting to ask my friends for help? We've been there for each other so much and it really hurts that she thinks this of me. I don't want to be alone in this.
Hi Scarlett you are not a bad person you are ill and all you are looking for is support which we all need.Sadly your friend is perhaps not strong enough emotionally to handle her anxiety as well as helping you.l would not take it to heart it's her problem not yours.Sadly people let you down you obviously have helped her a lot.Try to find someone that you can open up to preferably a professional who will be able to guide you and help you with your anxiety.Do not allow your friend to make you feel worse about yourself.
Hi Google let's talk anxiety group you can message them they will message you back it will help you to talk to people with the same problems as you x
Hi Scarlett,Poor you.!! Anxiety isn't nice at the best of times.Ok I would strongly suggest you try and have a few sessions of reflexology and also aromatherapy massage. This is a must for people like us.Also get along to your nearest health food shop and buy some rescue remedy.For day time use & night time as well.Bach flower remedies are wonderful.Kalms as well are great.Invest in a CD player with relaxation Cds.Lavender oil as well with a base oil or you can key into Google lavender roller ball.Swimming a well is wonderful.I have had Anxiety since a child.Now I am 60.so I know what I am talking about.Regards Amanda h
Sadly this is what happens when people come together to help each other through broadly the same set of issues. Codependency builds, and one person then doesn't have the desire or need to be part of that anymore. It's very common and it's why in group therapy members are told not to communicate outside the group. No your not a bad person, but those kind of relationships just don't work
Hi scarlet, try not to be so hard on yourself. This probabaly will go round and round in your head now. You are not a bad person. Such a shame she sent this text. As she also suffers from anxiety and you have helped her in past why not just text her and tell her you did not realise how she felt, that you will give her some space and hope she will contact you for a chat, perhaps that you do appreciate her and hope she will contact you, ( leave the ball in her court as they say). I have a friend who had a similar situation , one day her friend told her she only ever came to her with problems and stoped speaking to her. She soon learned her friend just snapped, as you do when your fed up, and unfortunately she was in the firing line. I was told it is good to talk to friends and not bottle things up, so I started to confide in mine a little more, but you can become co dependant as someone else mentioned if you both have anxiety , as two people with problems with drugs and alcohol often do. I hope this is just a case of your friend venting at you and hope everything works out ok, try not to be too hard on yourself , you've not done anything wrong . Concentrate on yourself , you know you would still help your friend if needed, don't let this affect you to the point your anxiety worsens.its not worth it. ( I've spent too much time worrying about other people, what they think, did I say wrong thing etc, it got me nowhere, just more anxious. The people that wanted the best for me are still around❤️