Hi I am a carer for hubby! And due to have social service s in to talk to us about maybe stopping carers for my hubby! As I am still on a crutch inside!a also very sore at night and take painkillers! I am also stressed as I have a bad right knee which clicks each time I walk!I have no one to give me any help! My hubby is deaf has severe sight problems also chronic osteo arthritis of lumbar spine hips and knees!but he has chosen the painkiller route! Still on the same meds after 25 years!!as a carer I am going to ask for a carers assessment for myself! I am getting there slow but sure! Sorry to moan!regards Amanda
You moan if you want to , we all have our problems and it's good to get things off our chests ..
its notveasy being a carer no matter how much you love someone my dad drives me up the wall sometimes .
my friend works for a carers association here , it holds events for carers and gives cover for you when you are out . Is there anything like that near you?
Take care
MaryMary
Hi mary! Thank you but all we have 3times a week is 3people to come and take hubby out! But all the time I am on a stick I am unable to carry things! Hubby also on a stick! Also I can't bend to load dishwasher! So we will see what social services say! Regards Amanda
Hospital gave me a leaflet for the Red Cross . Funded by govt and council they came in twice a epweek for six weeks to help me , change ted socks etc . They would have done light shopping and were a great help .
I had to have Tesco del shopping for about 7 weeks , other stores delopivet as well .
Hi we have carers each day at the moment! But I am scared social services will stop them from next week! I feel as though I need longer! I can't bend to make beds cook clean etc regards Amanda
Hi Amanda hopefully you will get some help from social services. I bet it's difficult putting yourself first after being a carer for so long. Depending on where you live there are many charities that provide help at home too with housework, shopping etc and some church groups have volunteers that are happy to help. Ring around in your local community and see what's on offer. It's important to accept help from all that offer it and not to feel bad for asking for help. I was lucky and had my hip done when I was 29 so my mum was my angel.
Good luck in your recovery and never feel bad for moaning during this difficult and frustrating time. X
Hi Ellen! We have carers in at the moment! Each day but somehow I am not feeling right to do cooking washing bed making and all things! I am going to try and prolong cover as hubby is on a stick like me! So accident could happen! Regards Amanda
I had Wiltshire farm foods delivered for dad and I , he wasn't keen as he is very fussy but I couldn't stand long to cook dinners etc .
Hi mary! Snap we have these too! The carers are very good with helping us to warm these up! I am going t9 put my foot down with Hubby's social worker! As I am not ready to cancel all care for Hugh and take over! Regards Amanda
Hi Amanda hope you have a good social worker. Ask about direct payments so that u can get care and help as and when u need it. Your so will be able to explain about this and I am sure you soulful be entitled to this xxx
Hello Amanda,
You seem to be in a really tough situation these days. It really is not reasonable for anyone to expect you at this point in time to be able to be a care taker for your husband when you, yourself need one! Sounds like you need one person to help to look over illness and disability while another person assists in household chores. I know after my THR I was non weight bearing for 4 weeks and on walker then cane for another four weeks. No way I could have looked after myself much less another needy person. I am in US so not familiar with your assistance programs but you need continuing help for awile yet. Government, private and public help resources need to be searched to find who might provide the type help you need for awhile longer at least. Are there any public adult day-care facilities there? We have some community ones that provide adult day care five days a week for those whose caretakers are overwhelmed and need a break . Or maybe there are other resources? Will your doctor help by writing a note or evaluation stating that you need more help? That's what would need to happen here for home health and occupational therapy to come to your home longer than maybe is standard.
Please know that we are on your side and feel the desperation behind your words.Prayers for you and your situation .
I think you are having a tough time so feel free to moan and get it off your chest. I would fight to keep the carers and Social Services should see that you cannot manage everything on your own. Make sure they know you can't bend yet and what a struggle it is for you to do things. Its not a simple operation and can take 6 months to recover properly and even longer sometimes, so inform them of that. Hope everything works out for you and good luck.
hi amanda
fight for your rights! i have had to fight for my son who is on the Autistic spectrum for years and for my husband who has had mental health issues as well - remember we are in the run up to a general election, if you get no joy from rhe social worker e-mail your present MP - ours became unbelievably helpful a few months ago and i bet yours will offer to come and do the chores for you in return for 2 more votes!!!!!
up with the hippie revolution xxxxx
Hi Amanda,
Are they talking about stopping carers foryour hubby altogether? He did have some before you went in for your THR didnt he?
You get in touch with the consultant again.....are you having a 6 week check up?
Write a list of all the things wrong with you and make sure he knows.
Also ask your GP for a review of our hubby's meds
Dont worry about moaning
Take care pet and good luck
Love
Eieen UK