Hi last year I had health anxiety and with the help of therapy I managed to overcome this. I'm 27 and married with a little boy who is 2 years old. Last week I had a conversation with my sister about me maybe having more children and I said I don't want anymore at the moment. And she said wouldn't you want another little boy like the one you've got and I said no. I'm perfectly happy with the one I've got, he is wonderful and always had been. I started to over think the conversation and thought what a horrible person I am to say i didnt want another child. Now ive been having these horrible visions of my little boy hurting himself badly or even me hurting him and its making me feel really sick. What should i do to stop this?
Talk to your partner
Thank you for your reply. I've spoken to him but he just says that my son is fine and I'm fine. So thats not much help. I know it's all just in my head but I can't stop these horrible scary thoughts. My anxiety is really bad too. Ofcourse I would NEVER hurt my son. That's why these thoughts are so scary.
Hi Sarah, think positively, how lucky you are to be happy with your perfect family. You are contented and happy with what you have. I too have only one son and I have been so happy.
It is normal if someone has planted a seed of doubt of what would happen if some ill befell your son. You sound like you are beating yourself up needlessly.
Concentrate on the positives. You are a good Mum. Your little boy is happy and well loved thats all you should concentrate on, not the what ifs. Live life for today and enjoy what you have made, a loving family that is happy.
Hi thank you for the positive thoughts. Definitely need to try to focus on the good things a lot more. Hopefully then I can forget the bad thoughts. Always looking to the worst possible outcome but I guess that's the anxiety.
Hi Sarah, its OK to occasionaly think of bad events, but then try to think of the good thoughts and then disregard the bad ones.
Anxiety is when we dwell on the bad thoughts. So for every bad thought make a positive decision to think of 3 positives in your life then say, well the good out weights the bad." I am a success and I have a happy life" and hopefully you will feel better.
Its just one coping strategy to try and we all get anxious from time to time.
Sarah, I am one of those people who had one son, and that's all I ever wanted. He is a great son, happily married, and doing very well. I was never a big family person. I come from a big family and was the oldest Enough said.
I am retired now, and never regretted for one moment having no more children.
We all have a choice in how we respond to what people say to us. We also have a choice in how we respond to what our minds say to us. It is up to you to decide if you are going to listen to your heart, or your head based on what another person said t to you.
The only thing on god's earth we can truly control is our thoughts. The same way you trained your youngster works for training your mind. You might have to say don't do that many times until the child or the mind gets it.....but they do finally get it. When these thoughts start, cut them off at the pass....they are only thoughts. They are only thoughts. If I say that often enough you will get it. If You say this often enough, you will get it.
You got some good advice from the people I see have already replied to your question. Believe what you've read, act on it and be sure to keep in touch as often as you need to, luv.
Thank you for your great advice ☺
You are very welcome, Sarah
Once we fall victim to anxiety,even if we manage to over come it. It will always be lurking around the corner, ready to pounce. Any little thing can start it up again. You might consider antidepressants or if therapy works for you, do it again.
Thank you for your reply. I have been in contact with my gp and I'm going to get some forms tomorrow to start up my therapy again. Hopefully it will work again like it did last time ☺