I've been suffering from OCD and depression for few years now. I'm 19 and have been diagnosed this week after going to psychiatrist. My dad suffers from agoraphobia, panic disorder, GAD and depression. I love him very much and want to help him get better. He is a wonderful person and deserves all the best. Since I am feeling very low I stopped going to college I don't like and I'm staying home all day with dad while mum is at work. I usually feel guilty very often for almost everything. Now this morning mum said, why don't you study psychology to help dad and you, too? Since she said that my mind is racing with guilty thoughts, I don't want to study that. I want to study marketing and sell cakes from home and make my family proud and help them. But since I heard mum say that, I have been feeling so guilty because I can't study that for dad to help him. I feel so selfish, I want him to recover, but I just can't. Please if you have any words of comfort, I would be very thankful.....wishing you all the best in your recovery...
although your mom is trying to help, you have nothing to feel guilty about. you need to go with your desire of marketing and selling cakes. that is where are your passion is. that is where you will feel truly happy in your job. Years ago people told me I should go into nursing and I foolishly listened. I never wanted to be a nurse and I was completely miserable! I ended up leaving the profession only to feel lost and not know what to do. Go where your heart is! Nobody else is you and I have learned that I have to make my own decisions if I want to be happy. Everybody will understand. You can still support your father emotionally by showing your concern. Your father can get needed help by professionals but you still need to be happy. I learned through the years that nobody can tell anybody what profession to go into. They can offer suggestions but in the end you have to make the decision because it’s your life. just explain to your mother how you truly feel and be gentle with yourself. You’re going to be OK! ❤
you need to shed the guilt and do wots best for you as I'm sure your father will agree.your there with him so you have nothing to feel guilty about but if you take a subject you don't want to do then you won't be happy and your father will see that.
Do not feel guilty at all!! Your mom is just offering suggestions! And your family will be proud whatever profession you choose-- they want you to be happy! I know you love your dad BUT you can't put your future on hold. I would try to continue with college even if it's one or two classes a semester. OR even try online classes. Take care!
Thank you very much for the kind and wonderful words. You are completely right. Wishing you all the best in life. Take care 😊
Thank you very much. Really appreciate it. 😊 Wishing you all the best.
Thank you very much, I am thinking about taking on-line classes. Wishing you all the best in life. 😊