This has been bothering me for quite some time, it has only really started to effect me, so I need to know what others think out it. Rant incoming
Diagnosed with Mild Aspergers at the age of 4.
Domestic violence both ways with parent at the age of 9 and ending at 10 when the parent left. (both parents were seperated.) Parent also said some very nasty things. Bullied for 3 years straight at secondary school, was beaten up, called names etc. At the age of 15 I discovered cannabis, and abused it for about 7 months.
Since I started college, my social anxiety has increased a lot, it's not really bad but its bad. I feel quite depressed aswell when I do, however I have no offical diagnosis. Since college I have no friends in the real world anymore, all my other friends don't like me/lost contact.
Lost care in the things I used to care about, for example I lost my girlfriend about a year ago in september, due to the fact I was just depressed and it was effecting her.
Keep missing days off college because I don't want to step foot outside my house, which has lead to me being so far behind i'm on the brink of being kicked off the course.
I have no motivation to do well, or even get out of bed. My dad says its down to my lifestyle which he most likely is correct. Spend all day doing nothing playing games with my friends online. It's the only thing I enjoy.
I don't want to get theopy, my dad and other family memebers want me to go get a councellor, which in my opinion won't help. I deal with my problems by isolating myself.
What do you all think? And do you have any similar stories?
Dear Luke
i think in this case your dad's advice is good. Counselling can be very beneficial. Just try it and then decide if you want to continue.
hi Luke i would give councelling a try as your dad advised....its worth a try you wont know till you try....give it a go it might be just what you need and its a start...take care and try and be positive
Hi, sorry to hear about everything.
I went through the same thing but for different reasons when i was your age. I eventually went to see a councillor but stopped briefly as i didnt like talking to her and i prefer to be by myself when depression and anxiety hits me. After leaving college i started getting really bad. I started councilling again, stopped, then started again. the third councillor i saw was great and i felt empathy rather than someone just trying to fix me and get out. I think you should try councilling and if you dont like it take a break then try again until you find a councillor you can really connect with. It will help alot, just might take some searching to find the right one
Hi is dealing with your problems by isolating yourself helping you through them? Do you think it will change things for you? How will it change things if you just avoid your problems instead of dealing with them?
If you haven't tried counselling and/or meds how do you know it won't help you? Isn't it worth trying to see if it helps or not? It sounds like you have issues which might need treatment and isolating yourself will not help and will likely make it worse. Unless you don't want to get better?
Hey, sorry to hear about your situation. Has anyone ever mentioned Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? You say secondary school so can I presume you're from the UK, if you ask your doctor you can get it on the NHS. It's not exactly counselling cause it doesn't make you talk about your past and work out the root cause. Which is very off putting for a lot of people. It works on the way you feel and think in the present and gives you lots of techniques to help improve your way of thinking. I've had a friend do it and she found it very beneficial. I myself will be embarking on it soon.
I have bipolar depression and I know it's very hard to be motivated when depressed. However unless you want to be stuck in the same place for years and years on end you must make the first move. No one can do it for you. Please take the advise of the others in this forum and get some help. There is life without depression and it's wonderful!!