Hi everyone me again xx I will be 3 weeks post IP this Thursday I am managing on one crutch around the house managing to do little jobs like wash up make a cup of tea very slowly get my trousers on lolxx there are so many housework chores I want to do but just cannot manage because I still can't bend down and to be honest still feel rather sore x I feel I'm having a bad morning this morning and feeling sorry for myself I so want to be able to be back to normal and it seems to be taking forever I am not the most patient of people at the best if times its just so frustrating being off work and not being able to catch up on household chores lol xx when will the light at the end if the tunbelk start haooenning please!!!! Am I a slow recovered or us it the norm I'm so sorry I'm moaning I am really grateful to have this lovely new hip because bone on bone was unbearable and for that I'm extremely grateful its gone I just want normality back xxxx thanks for listening and thanks for your good advice always xx
Ah you sound like me! The tears of frustration I have shed.
I am only a week ahead of you, so feel your pain! ( and mine lol)
How I cope is to focus on one positive thing at a time, no matter how trivial (like a paracetamol free day yesterday) and call it a triumph!
At this stage I think we are starting to get over the exhaustion caused by the op, but the physical recovery lags behind. This contributes to the champing at the bit!
I am setting myself small goals each day, rather than sweeping statements like having a clean up. Yesterday I mopped the kitchen floor (in stages!). Today the Xmas decs MUST come down!
I have rekindled my love of knitting, and making my brother a sweater. That feels purposeful which helps.
Not sure if any of this will help you, but just know I understand!
Thank you Gertie just good to know there is someone who feels and shares my frustration lol x this would be a lonely old road without the help of you wonderful fellow hippies :-) happy new year to you love xxxx
Aaawww sweetie! It's such early days yet and the problem is we are women and think we should be doing everything much quicker than we should . Now Vanessa do things at your own pace, don't push yourself too hard physically and mentally. Lie down when your body tells you (and it will) and use this forum for the positive not to read how fabulous some are doing and you feel way behind.. Just be careful doing chores, use grabby stick etc and do not bend!! I am now 7 weeks post op I am walking the dog this morning and doing some ironing later. But I know I will need a rest this pm and will have it! It's my body saying rest. In the beginning I used to sleep an hour every afternoon, now it may only be 20 mins or not at all depending what I have done in the morning.
Vanessa just chill, never again will you have the chance to read a book or watch a film or just rest
i also got that nasty cough virus that is just going after 3 weeks, that really set me back in my recovery.
and as Quentin crisp said " after 3 years dust doesn't get any thicker" the chores will wait!!
I am over three months post op and I still don't feel completely normal.... I'm back at work and able to drive- shop- clean house etc but still get sore and tired easily. It's a long recovery but I felt almost normal at around 8 weeks. Try to be calm about what you're going through- it does get better each week and being pain free is glorious!
Thank you ginger xx
It will be a much better year for us all.
Maybe we will come out of this calmer and more relaxed as well as more mobile 😉
I know exactly how you feel - don't know how many tears I've shed this past 5 weeks!!!!! That "normal' seems so far away.........
I've decided to listen to my body and do what I can instead of focusing on what I should be doing and comparing myself to others who's recovery has been much quicker than mine! At times in the past few weeks I have been an emotional wreck much to the surprise of my husband ( don't think he knew how to cope as I'm a strong person lol)
Im still on crutches and still taking regular pain medication, again I thought by 5/6 weeks I would be so much better. So I'm trying to get myself little goals each day and taking each day as it comes rather than looking what I should be like in a few months. I know that I will eventually get there and the "normal" me will one day return 😃
Just so glad for this forum and the support and advice - thanks to that I no longer feel alone
Vanessa,
You sound wonderfully normal to me - we all think we are well on the way to recovery, but our bodies are not as far along that road as our minds are.
Take it easy, it's a long and winding road, you will get there eventually.
Graham - 🚀💃
Vanessa, you sound quite normal to me! One of the hardest things I found was when I had a good day one day so was really pleased only to find the following day I had a bad day for pain and couldn't do the things I did the previous day and felt as if I was getting nowhere or even going backwards. Gradually the number of good days goes up and the bad days goes down.
3 weeks is not long at all.
Incidentally i I had no trouble putting knickers or trousers on as we were given an excellent demonstration by a occupational therapist at hip school and it really works.
joan
Thank you joanx have gone back to bed today really not feeling it at all I'm quite drained!! Maybe I'm expecting too much :-( xx
Oh Vanessa!...I'm almost 6 weeks post op and know exactly how you are feeling!...I felt better at 3 weeks than I do at 6!...although I'm managing quite well with one crutch a simple thing like tying my shoelaces seems a million hours away yet!! Your ( our) lovely new hips as you put it are indeed a wonder....thank god we have an option that can offer us pain free future !
i was told before my surgery to allow a minimum 12 weeks to get to a reasonable recovery stage...some are quicker to mend whilst others take longer....but impatience is the challenge a lot of us....so for me it's a " mindset" change I need to adopt and along with the therapy let the body take it's natural healing course over the 12,weeks...
Philip
ps.... It's not moaning....you are invaluabky sharing and thankyou fir that )))
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Hiya vanessa, good to hear you are doing stuff, everything you do today you do something you could not do yesterday, i am trying to walk with out my crutch, in doors only. Yesterday was a melt down, think I over did it Friday and Saturday, i was in pain couldn't walk without a crutch, thing i think we do is we want to be normal again, and a fed up with the struggle so we push ourselves to hard, then setbacks come and then frustration sets in. Just relax for an hour or so, take it easy today, tomorrow is another day, just remember you are not alone, we are all there with you at different stages.
sue xx
Here here Ruth , I agree, we should make the most of the opportunity to rest read and relax with out feeling guilty!!! I am almost 5 weeks post op. I have been fortunate so far and progressed well every day from word go. I still get tired very easily and rest periodically through out the day in amongst my exercises and light chores. We are still in the very early period of our recovery . I continually have to tell my self to be patient and slow down.. Slow and steady wins the race. Annie
Oh sweet Vanessa - I have been shedding a lot of frustrating and impatient and pity tears myself! I know how you are feeling - I feel like these days feel like weeks and I will just never heal. I am 4 weeks post op.
I have noticed big changes for me about weekly. I am not pain free but definitely improving so trying to stay positive. My PT said something to me that made me feel a little better maybe it will help you too. He said remember - it takes 6 weeks for a bone to heal when you break it (6 weeks for a cast to come off) and essentially that is what has happened to you. You have been through major surgery and have 'broken' your bones. Give it time - you will heal and are improving.
So to that - give yourself some credit and time and patience and love. We have been through a serious surgery that has been very traumatic to our body - let's let it heal. Also - I am told and see it here - our healing rates/progress/milestones etc vary GREATLY from person to person for many reasons.
I want normal back so bad I can't stand it. Some days I am wiped out simply taking a shower or walking to the car or trying to stand and make lunch. Other days I can do a little more. At the same time I find myself going in and out of depressions. Also being so idle w nothing much we can do we have a lot of time to think about it.
I Guess my point is - you are doing great lady! As we all are - no matter where we are in our progression. Better yet - is just around every corner. Give yourself a break and give yourself some patience and love. What we all have been through is no small feat and I know I will wear this battle scar proudly!
Hugs and love to you.
Hi Vanessa,
You sound to be doing really well for 3 weeks. But please take it easy, you don't want to set yourself back by overdoing it in the early days. I am 4 weeks post op today & feel as though I could get on my hands & knees to clean the floor, obviously, I am not going to as I'm sure my hip would complain! The hardest part of this whole process is taking it easy during recovery. The physio that came to my house about a week after I had been discharged from hospital could not emphasise enough that as I had an uncemented hip I could not go down to one crutch even in the house for 6 weeks and that all I must do are the exercises he showed me that day and build up my walking outside little everyday. He said if I'd had a cemented hip I could have gone down to one crutch after two weeks. It is driving me nuts trying to keep to his regime & I am getting depressed at times. I have to admit to using the golfers pickup at times but trying to keep this to a minimum.
Please take care of yourself & make the most of resting when you can.
TJ x