so i have been seeing this guy we have never had sex but he fingered me while i was having an outbreak (it just started) HE MIGHT HAVE TOUCHED HIS PENIS WITH THAT HAND BUT IM NOT SURE I havent told him because i dont see a relationship happening but he is so aggressive even me telling him no im not ready he thinks he can persuade me into having sex ****
he doesnt seem like a very nice person. seems to be just out for his own gains! ditch him
also would be rare it would be passed like that. if he had a cut on his hand there is a possibility of a herpatic whitlow but still is slim!
okay im just afraid that if he touched himself he woukd too get genital herpes but you are right !
Well there are a few things I have to say to this. 1. You should always tell someone about your diagnosis prior to any sexual activity. Seriously. This is a no brainer. You are risking exposing them to a life-long disease and if they aren't aware of that, informed consent disappears. This is coming from someone who has genital HSV1. Tell. your. partners. Yes, even if you don't see it going anywhere long term. They have a right to know and make a decision about whether to proceed and how best to protect themselves. 2. I'm concerned about YOUR safety being involved with someone who seems aggressive this way. I'd cut your losses at this point and ditch the guy. So many red flags raised from just this one description of ONE experience. Get out before it gets bad. That's not to say it absolutely will, but I personally wouldn't even give it the chance to develop further. 3. Like @xDx91xPi said, it would be incredibly rare for it to get passed on this way, so I wouldn't be too worried about it. However, if your sexual relationship with this guy is going to continue (which I don't think it should) you need to tell him about your diagnosis.
There isn't a good amount of research out there on herpes transmission when you already have it in one area. My OBGYN told me my boyfriend couldn't get HSV1 from my genitals on his genitals, because he already has HSV1 on his mouth. But, that's not true. His doctor also agrees that he could still contract it on his genitals. You can have HSV1 or HSV2 in either place and in both. Anyway, just watch out if he has symptoms he can get swabbed and treated. Make sure you both practice good hygiene etc. when you have an outbreak
i definitely agree im a firm believer in telling potential partners because i was not given that choice but the problem is i definitely was not intending on having sex with this person which is why i said that i didnt plan in telling him