Hi I am a 35 years old gay guy. I am generally very scared when it comes to having sex or any kinda sexual involvement with any stranger. I always take utmost care but yesterday I ended up having a anal sex with a complete stranger that too without precaution, I seriously don't understand why did I even do such big mistake? May be out of frastration I guess however not sure. I am really scared now and freaking out. Could some one please suggest me how long do I need to wait to get tested for HIV? and what are the possible symptoms? Thank you.
Why don't you check with a medical professional and maybe go on anti-viruals as a preventative measure. Anti-viruals are a often percribed as a preventative measure. It's a lot better than finding out later that you are HIV positive.
About your fear of sex: There are many that fear but desire sex at the same time. It's only human nature to desire it but sometimes something else labels the experience fearful. As a result often someone need to medicate with alcohol before being able to engage in sex. Probably a reason for nightclubs.
As a sex abuse survivor I have always had that challange and have gotten use to the fear being present, that is, unless I short circuit the fear.
I think at this time you should be proactive. Forgive yourself for being human and get on some anti-viruls. After a month you won't even be thinking about the experience.
In the future you should consider everyone a possiblty carriers of HIV. It's all about self preservation and self love. Sounds like maybe you need to start loving and forgiving yourself more.
Consult with professionals and don't delay.
My best,
DL
Here is a good quote for you from The Daily Bell:
"Hardly anything happens without the mind spinning it up into an elaborate production. It’s the elaboration that makes life more difficult than it needs to be." Sylvia Boorstein
Dear Dave,
Thank you so much for your advise and quote. It is going to be very useful. Thanx.
Kind regards
PJ