Recently my ex husband and I decided to try to make it work once again. This would be our fourth try. We have a teenager. It seemed like a good idea as neither one of us could let the other go. So I moved back in with him in the home we purchased together years ago. (I have my own home.) Almost immediately I developed anxiety. Let me also say I have a lot going on. I am being mandated at my job late into the night, not bring able to leave until 5am. We have major staffing issues. I cannot eat but a limited diet as I have gallbladder issues. If I eat the wrong thing I will pay for it with loss of sleep from pain and vomiting. My surgery is scheduled for mid-November. After that I plan on leaving a job I really like because of the above mentioned and because all those I was close to there have left. I want to say I would like to make it work with my ex because I have always loved him as a person. But I'm scared of the anxiety. I had to see my Dr and she gave me depression meds and something for anxiety. Today I came back to my own home after spending a week at my ex's. With no sleep and all the anxiety I had to make this decision for my mental health. I would like any and all comments from personnel or professional experience. Thank you.
Can you defer any decisions until after your surgery.
Only u knows exactly what the situation is. Perhaps after your surgery you may not feel as anxious and this can help you deal with other things in your life.
Take care.
Thanks for the response. Right now I'm taking it moment by moment. I am calling my Dr for a referral to speak to a professional asap. I feel like I should not be this scared about something and someone I genuinely care about.
If in the UK there is an organisation called Relate for marriage guidance and counselling.
I think you can self refer.
I'm in the US. I'm sure we have something similar. Thank you again harriet67221. 